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How to discover and learn about BDSM games?

How to discover and learn about BDSM games?

BDSM is very broad and we often find ourselves lost when we want to start. We will give you some information and advice to get started smoothly.

What is BDSM?

BDSM is the abbreviation for Bondage and Discipline (BD), Dominance and Submission (DS), and Sadomasochism (SM). These different terms represent different purposes:

Slavery consists of restricting the partner’s freedom of movement.

Discipline is mainly about imposing rules and applying sanctions when those rules are violated.

Dominance and submission are common terms in BDSM. They say something about the division of roles in BDSM games. The Dominant (Dom) is in charge of the submissive (sub) during the game.

Sadomasochism is related to the pleasure of hurting someone or being hurt.

BDSM often has to do with feeling empowered and submissive. If you prefer a certain genre, that doesn’t mean you have to love all kinds of BDSM. To discuss your preferences together. What do you want to try? And what is not?

Safety first

When you engage in BDSM activities, it is very important to do so in a safe manner. To ensure safety, there are a number of things to consider.

Before you begin, it is wise to familiarize yourself with some BDSM techniques so that you can enjoy the activities properly and safely. For example, if you are interested in bondage. Improper strapping or a bad attachment can cause problems with blood circulation or breathing. Also, the activities that involve torturing the slave, it is important to know where the line between the innocent and the harmful is.

A word of stop

To ensure that you both can continue to enjoy the BDSM game, it is important to choose a stop word in advance. This word is used by the submissive partner to indicate that a certain situation is becoming too intense, too painful, or too uncomfortable. It can therefore prevent embarrassing or even dangerous situations. The Dominant will never ignore a stop sign.

Did you know that … a stop word like “no” or “stop” is not practical to use? Instead, use colors (‘green’, ‘red’) or names like ‘lollipop’.


Communication is the key to keeping BDSM enjoyable and safe. Tell each other what your wishes and limitations are. BDSM is all about consensus on what your game will look like. It means that you fully support her and trust yourself. He has absolutely no intention of overstepping the limits of himself and others.

Bondage and total control

Bondage is an erotic game where the subject’s freedom of movement is withdrawn by the Dominant. Control is central: the Dominant has (total) control over the submissive. To bind the submissive, it is possible to use bondage tape. It’s very easy to use and great for getting started, as you don’t have to learn complicated tying techniques. There are also bondage kits very suitable for beginners. You can also experiment with this practice with handcuffs, eye masks (to reduce vision), or bondage collars.

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